First of all, what a coach really offers to her clients is herself: her personality, personal qualities, skills, attributes, attitudes, history and perspectives. What makes the coach as a human being unique and attractive is what makes her desirable as a coach.
In that spirit, I got personal with myself in naming my practice. My name, “Kiran,” is a Hindi name from India, meaning “Ray of Light.”
When I think about a ray of light, like those featured in the picture on my business card, advertisements and on my website, I think about illumination, positivity, radiance, happiness, curiosity, expansion, creativity, possibility, inspiration and seeing what was always there, just more brightly and intensely. Those are some of the qualities that Ray of Light Coaching brings to my clients’ lives when our work together has brought about the shifts and understanding that they desire.
For new parents, I think of a ray of light as applying to all newborns, to how human beings change when they become parents. Like rays of light beaming into the rain forest, newborns illuminate us and our lives with wonder, unlimited potential, curiosity, happiness and an expanding sense of who we can be.
I come to coaching for modern parents with zero judgment or “should’s.” If I have motto’s in this work, they are: “Be authentic.” “Let your child be your guide…”
Like all new parents, my husband and I struggled in the early months with sleep deprivation, overwhelm, a lack of experience and an often chaotic environment, keeping all of our plates spinning while learning how to care for and be with our new baby. We learned over time to trust our instincts and to trust ourselves and the transition we were experiencing. We had help from our friends, six of whom had babies all within three months of us, and some support from family during the first two months.
When my husband went back to work when our daughter was one month old, I was left at home, by choice after having taken an extended leave from my job to spend six months instead of the allotted three months of state disability maternity leave at home with our daughter, feeling out of sorts and out of sync with him and with the rest of the world. I felt teary, confused about my life, overweight and unsure of myself. The guilt of being a mom who also wanted her own life to make sense and be fulfilling settled in quickly.
I learned, though, within the first three months of my daughter’s life, to be present with her and to understand what made her smile and laugh, and to just enjoy the time I was spending with her. We went out for walks, met other Moms and babies for play dates, she played and learned quickly, and looking into her smiling eyes was that ray of light that got me through the toughest days.
I also began to see and appreciate some of the qualities that were growing in me because of motherhood. Becoming a Mom definitely made me a better person: more patient, less serious, more playful, more curious, more present, more responsible for others’ well being and happiness, more generous, more contented with the simple things in life, like a walk outdoors, a good (kids’) book, a healthy home cooked meal, a hearty laugh, and lots of strong snuggles and feeling needed by this new life.
When I got the opportunity, I returned to work part time when my daughter was six months old and spent the next six months trying out being back at work, juggling her care, child care, breastfeeding, part time work, being a wife. I decided at the end of that six month project that I wanted to leave the traditional work force and become a mompreneur running my own business from home which served other parents.
I wanted to focus on working with other modern parents because I transformed in becoming a Mom in ways I did not expect and that I am still discovering. Mostly, my desire to prioritize my child and family became what felt like a must for me, not out of pressure or meeting outside expectations, but out of an authentic love and satisfaction that I felt in being a Mom that I never felt before. And several friends who became Moms within months of me all made their own unique choices about work and family balance. None of us “figured it out,” per se, as each Mom had a different approach. Some kept working full time, others worked part time, others started businesses like me, and others stayed at home without working outside of the home at all. We’ve all done the best we can to find what balance fits our selves and needs most.
Our lives will continue changing, as will our choices, as our kids grow and mature.
I believe each client is their own ray of light, and may not know it yet. I believe their child is a ray of light who can teach them more than they may ever realize. Honoring our selves and our children are the most important parts of this journey.
I believe their child is a ray of light who can teach them more than they may ever realize.
As a coach for modern parents, I hold up these intentions and support people as they find their own authentic way on their parenting and personal paths. While it can feel daunting to find a balance that makes sense, there are so many rays of light illuminating our way. Opening to those within ourselves and in our outer world allow us to establish a life of intention, authenticity, joy, and deep contentment as our families grow.
Call me to set up a totally free 30 minute phone consultation and find out which of my coaching packages will support you to grow as a person, a parent and a partner, in order to be the family you really want to be.