Recently, I’ve talked with different parents and care providers about whether something called “balance” exists in a busy parent’s life. Based on my own experience and those of others, when reflecting honestly, it doesn’t seem to be a quality most parents are experiencing or can really hope to experience any time soon.
When I originally began coaching and thought of balance as something to coach towards, I wasn’t picturing the happy-ever after, got-it-all-figured-out variety, which is a myth.
Instead, I think of balance as being an inner state of being, where a sense of remaining centered, grounded and calm in the face of ever-changing external circumstances and daily issues/challenges stays steady.
How does one go about pursuing this intention for inner balance? For me, meditation is a requirement, not a nice to have. Even if it is five minutes at a time before my husband rushes out the door and means I take a shower later when the kiddo is trying to jump in with me. The practice of meditating is one of the few I have found that actually cultivates this inner state and provides a regular, tangible practice which can be committed to and built upon.
Journaling is another practice which quiets the chatter and encourages focus on what is really felt, what can be let go of, and what needs to be acted upon.
Letting go of perfection and comparison alone would give most parents a greater sense of inner balance. These forces are so pervasive in our culture, that simply letting them go, refusing to look externally for affirmation, returning to one’s inner set of values and vision for what a great family life looks like brings an inner state of acceptance, humility and ease.
What does balance mean to you? How do you cultivate it in your life?
If you could use some support figuring out how to bring more balance to your life, whatever that means to you, give me a call for a free consultation today at 415-377-6791!